I can not recall how many times I am in a conversation and things are not making sense. A few questions to clarify and find out I am not on the same page with the person I'm having the conversation with. Then there is that Ah, okay moment and things make sense.
There have been so much done with mistaken ideas and things are not as they appear. The video link is one of my favorites
Now we can discuss the captain attitude, how he doesn't listen. Lack of understanding.
Perspective matters. So take a look at what is going on, really going on. Make sure things are as they appear.
I've noticed my attitudes are affected by my perspective on things. So yes, your perspective is your reality.
Some steps to take to work on perspective.
1. Listen to people, try and see their point of view.
2. Check you own attitude. You may find your own biased or history may be affecting the way things are going.
3. Pay attention to what is going on. There are clues out there, but if you are so wrapped up in your own world you'll miss what is really going on and you find yourself out in the outfield.
4. Past history, ie. old baggage. People can change, but it takes a long time for others to notice the change. Assuming it is the same old same old can perpetuate attitudes etc.
5. Trust yourself. If you take clues from what everyone else is saying, you are acting on other people's filters. While friends can help, you have to decide how you are going to respond, and not worry about what everyone else is thinking or doing. I heard it said, "It is none of your business what other people think about you." So true.
What are some other things that affect your perspective?